
Attachment is an expression of a
bond between two people. With the
intention to express love, caring
and show how much you mean to each
other. This can only be expressed
by people. Therefore, if you replace
people with objects you will not be
able to fully love and care for the
object.
For example if a child hugs a teddy
bear, it cannot replace the attachment
felt when the child hugs his or her
father or if a child places a pillow
on his or her body they cannot care
for one another. Children get attachment
from holding an adult's hand, sitting
on their laps, hugging them, grasping
their arms, kissing their cheeks,
getting carried around, watching television
next to each other. These actions
can pass love, care to the child and
make the attachment even stronger.
Children need attachment from both
parents. Don't think that one parent
is enough. The love needs to be passed
from both parents to the child, so
that it is warm and strong. If the
child receives rejection like for
example a child comes to sit on the
father's lap while he is reading the
newspaper the father then ignores
the child and pushes him away or while
the mother is watching television
her child comes to sit next to her
and asks to hold her hand. The mother
then rejects the child's request for
holding hands and then ignores the
child.
Some adults have the wrong idea that
they can fill up the empty bucket
in their Children's lives with games,
comic books, television, toys or dolls
instead of giving them attachment
from both parents. Children will not
feel attachment that is full of love,
honesty and bonding there. Even if
the child is given good food and clean
clothes the child’s bucket will still
be empty. The truth is there is not
enough warm attachments for the child
from their parents. Even in adults
the husband and the wife get warm
attachments when there is a lot of
interaction whether it is holding
hands, a hug or a kiss they are all
good ways of sending love, sweetness,
understanding and care to each other.